Better your relation with your sibling

Although family relationships are some of the most valuable ties we have, most children and youth struggle to get along with their brothers and sisters.

Irritations, competition, quarrelling, and other typical challenges can quickly turn a household into a battle zone. Either good or bad experiences you have with siblings, to maintain sibling relationship are not only for children, but it is also for adults as well.

How do you maintain sibling relationship? There should not be theories on how to maintain sibling relationship, but there are some tips based on the life experience I have that I want to share with you.

Knowing the reasons

Not everyone needs to know the importance of having good sibling relationship. The good relationship just happens naturally like it does with the relationship with other people.

However, there are many times that people are unaware why they need to have good relationship with siblings. There are a lot of fights between them and even sibling fight is like a habit.

That will be a very bad condition where they need to know that great sibling relationship is extremely important for whatever reason.

Sharing Condition

Having similar condition, hobby, and routines will make siblings get together more frequently. Siblings will share similar experience that can be great memories for them to talk together in the future.

If you can't hold the fight, then you need to get used to. There should be a natural way to solve the fighting problem, if there is any.

More Time to Talk

When we get this habit to children since they are young, it will be a wonderful memory in the future for them. However, there is nothing wrong when you have just got the chance for more conversation in the old ages.

l More time to talk about casual things will reduce the tension of quarrel.

l It should let siblings avoid misunderstanding each other better than using the written language.

Well, less people talk each other orally due to the sophisticated technology that allows them to use written language more frequently. It will increase the possibility of misunderstanding.

Hangout

Hangout will give more topics to talk with siblings. You can talk about whatever passes and have fun together. It will reduce the stress and pressure, especially for the older ones. For younger children, they can have more games or play that involve them together.

Besides, siblings will know better each other when they are involved in the same activity. They will know the characteristics and styles.

Even the small children will know their siblings or friends better under their consciousness when they often play or go out together.

Prevent debate

Debate is good to increase the critical thinking and language. However, too much debate is not healthy for any relationship.

It can be also a kind of habit. The situation can lead into a quarrel that avoids people to accept others easily. Therefore, I would like to suggest minimal frequency of debates.

Unless it is really necessary, it is better to prevent debates between siblings. When children are still young, parents need to be sensitive whether a debate is healthy for them or not.

Well, I completely understand that everyone has the right to give opinion or suggestion. However, it is better when children know the limit and how to say that properly so it will not lead to endless debates.

Responsibility

Sharing the same or mutual responsibilities will make siblings have better tolerance and solidarity. Therefore, it is great if you can get kids do some chores together and make them a team in the work. It will make them closer each other while they are building their responsibility.

Tolerance to Each Other

To respect others is one aspect of building good relationship with everyone, especially between siblings. Letting somebody else to do and to think differently from us with respect is one way to teach tolerance.

When children have the sense of tolerance, they will not easily hurt others or being hurt, especially siblings. To accept others for whoever they are will educate everyone to respect others. Thus, a good relationship is more likely to be maintained.

Uniform

Believe it or not, uniform might be a silly way to bind the good relationship of siblings. This is one tip from my parent. I still cannot see the logic relationship of uniform and good relationship.

Wearing uniform in a company or at school doesn't always make good relationship among people, but siblings uniform seems work well for us.

It just makes us feel proud of being in a family group. You might try to get uniforms for children in some occasions or daily.

Examples from Parents

You might find it is very hard to tell children to maintain good relationship with siblings. It is easier for them to see examples from parents right away.

Therefore, it is important for you to show the good relationship with others, and with your siblings especially, so that children can exemplify.

Thinking of Parents

Are your siblings cooperative? You are very lucky if you have ones. However, if you feel that your siblings are terrible and not cooperative at all, that is not a bad fate at all.

It might also happen to your children. They might feel that their siblings don't fit them as well. The main reason for them to maintain sibling relationship is only to consider the parents' will.

Thus, you need to tell them your will that they need to maintain sibling relationship. That will be the last reason.