Hyderabad: Peer pressure in love among youngsters

Hyderabad: Peer pressure in love only sounds like a myth unless you have experienced one. The question constantly strikes your mind asking are you in a relationship with your partner because you love him or is it just because of peer pressure? Your feelings for him/her are they true?

Millennial frequently find themselves in such situations where these questions often strike their mind. What does peer pressure in love exactly means.

While growing up, we think about freedom in our decision making and think we should be able to do everything the way we want it to be. However, sometimes we find ourselves being caught up with peers influencing our decisions especially when it is concerned to relationships.

Who are your peers?

When you were a little kid, your parents usually chose your friends, putting you in playgroups or arranging play dates with certain children they knew and liked. Now that you're older, you decide who your friends are and what groups you spend time with.

Your friends — your peers — are people your age or close to it who have experiences and interests similar to yours. You and your friends make dozens of decisions every day, and you influence each other's choices and behaviors. This is often positive — it's human nature to listen to and learn from other people in your age group.

As you become more independent, your peers naturally play a greater role in your life. As school and other activities take you away from home, you may spend more time with peers than you do with your parents and siblings. You'll probably develop close friendships with some of your peers, and you may feel so connected to them that they are like an extended family.

Besides close friends, your peers include other kids you know who are the same ages — like people in your grade, church, sports team, or community. These peers also influence you by the way they dress and act, things they're involved in, and the attitudes they show.

It's natural for people to identify with and compare themselves to their peers as they consider how they wish to be (or think they should be), or what they want to achieve. People are influenced by peers because they want to fit in, be like peers they admire, do what others are doing, or have what others have.

The power of peer influence in relationship

Peers and peer pressure are more pronounced during teenage years but what if someone has carried it on until the time they are in a relationship that was intended to lead to marriage?

Imagine your partner being unable to show you to her friends because they prefer a particular type of partner?

They may choose what kind of partner she must have or to have the same things, otherwise, she must leave their group.

But she instead does everything possible to keep them but how possible is it for her to keep the relationship?

While growing up, we think about freedom in decision making and think we should be able to do everything the way we want it to be. However, sometimes we find ourselves being caught up with peers influencing our decisions as far as relating is concerned.

But while peers are important in our lives, they should not be in our relationships because you must make decisions for yourself without any influence from them.

Some partners cheat because they want to get the things that their partners cannot give them. They usually struggle to fit in the group.

There are several instances where many of the youngsters would agree with. When your best friend gets an expensive gift from his/her partner, you tend to ask your partner to get you expensive gifts in order to somewhere showoff it in front of your best friend.

Teens and peer groups

Seeing his/her friend getting into a the relationship often push single teen towards pressure of getting into a relationship not to be felt left alone in the group. To avoid being left out teens most of the time gets into relationships just to be included in their friends group.

While peers are important in our lives, they should not be in our relationships because you should make decisions for yourself without any influence from them.

One would have always faced this in your life in some or the other phase, where your best friend gets into a relationship and you felt alone. Getting into a relationship, just because your best friend has gone into one or is avoiding you is definitely not an option. Rather you can spend some time for yourself.

Break-ups and patch-ups

When you are in a committed relationship and you think he/she is the one you want to spend your life with. Then remember, giving space is very important. Break-ups and patch-ups would be common things going on between the two of you.

You know what is good and bad for you. Exploring relationships is definitely not the wrong thing and you should never think what people would say. People will definitely judge you or bitch about you to your partner saying 'abb tera bhi katega', which can affect someone's feelings mentally. Since it is your life and you know yourself much better than anyone else, that's your call if you think to leave the person if you're not comfortable with it. This is going to be an advantage for both the partners. You get to know your flaws.

There are several cases where the present generation is ready to stay in an abusive relationship only because of the fear of being judged.

Relationship and social media

Is it important that you talk about your personal life through several social media platforms? Yes, definitely, but also remember that you don't talk much about your relationships.

Nowadays, we see many youngsters uploading videos on 'TikTok', which is in the list of top trends. Youngsters upload romantic content with their pair and sometimes with their friends. When they continuously upload romantic concepts and then suddenly post depressing contents, people start responding to it. While few comment by sympathizing while a few comment saying 'Wapas alag hogaye'.

A few people would ignore them. But for those who are going through a bad phase can affect them mentally.