How to spice up your honeymoon ? 6 people reveal their stories how it keep it going
Every relationship is beautiful. The first year is always filled with passion, love and silly jokes to pull each other's legs which you would never dare to share it with your close friends too. Beginnings of relationships often have a vacation-like mentality. You plan your best outfits, pick out good restaurants, mindfully select the things you want to do together. All the while, gleefully leaving mundane realities (like overnight retainers and gas bills) at the airport. This blissful time, deemed the "honeymoon phase," marks the start of a new love, and can mean hot dates, bomb sex, and all the fun new flirty feels. There's a lot to be said for how to keep the "Honeymoon Phase" alive and how to continue to love (and love on) your boo, far past the early months. A new partner can feel like an escape from outside pressures, a sidekick next to you who will help you to conquer the world.
When your enter your second year of marriage you feel things changing real life takes the shine off your romance you need to keep check in about each other's needs whether that means planning an impromptu staycation, or finally get around to that favor you've been asked to do for months. Feeling that fire start to mellow out is nothing to fear. Even decades into a relationship, if stability, dependability, and trust continue flourish, new levels of comfort and rest will come naturally.
You don't fret over every text, you don't over analyze every detail with your besties, because you know your partner is there and you know they love you. The sparks haven't burnt out, they grew into a cozy campfire that's burning strong.
Here's what six people in long term relationships had to say about how they keep up the love.
1. Treat every date like your first.
EVEN THOUGH YOU'VE DATED FOR FIVE YEARS AND YOU'RE NOT THE SAME PEOPLE YOU WERE FIVE YEARS AGO.
2. Be physically tender outside of sex.
I FEEL LIKE MY CONCEPTION OF THE HONEYMOON PHASE IS VERY DIFFERENT THAN MOST, BUT MAINLY WE DO A LOT OF INTIMATE NON-SEXUAL TOUCH. IT'S JUST LIKE, SWEET STUFF THAT ALLOWS US TO CHECK IN AND WHATNOT.
3. Comfort Isn't Carelessness
DON'T STOP GROOMING JUST BECAUSE YOU'RE COMFORTABLE, AND KEEP COMPLIMENTING EACH OTHER!
4. Give Them Space
I MEAN I'M IN A LONG-TERM, LONG-DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP, SO EVERY TIME I FINALLY GET TO SEE MY PARTNER FEELS LIKE THE FIRST TIME OR FEELS SUPER EXCITING. BUT I THINK WHEN WE EVENTUALLY LIVE IN THE SAME PLACE, IT WILL BE IMPORTANT TO MAKE SURE WE KEEP HAVING OUT OWN LIVES, AND KEEP BEING INDEPENDENT PEOPLE OUTSIDE OF OUR RELATIONSHIP.
5. Be excited about what they're excited about.
TO KEEP THE ENTHUSIASM AS YOU CONTINUE TO EXPERIENCE LIFE WITH EACH OTHER, YOU NEED TO STAY ENGAGED WITH EACH OTHER'S INTERESTS AND PROVIDE SUPPORT. CONTINUE TO HAVE EACH OTHER'S BACK, AND BE ROOTING FOR THEM TO DO WHAT THEY WANT TO DO. BE WILLING TO RESEARCH OR LEARN UP ON THEIR INTERESTS TO BE ABLE TO ENGAGE WITH THEM ABOUT IT.
6. Don't wait to be asked to do something nice
IT'S LITTLE THINGS LIKE BUYING SNACKS OR FLOWERS, OR EVEN SAYING, 'YOU LOOK NICE TODAY.' REMEMBERING TO MAINTAIN SMALL ACTS OF KINDNESS, RATHER THAN STRESSING OVER BIG DISPLAYS OF AFFECTION. RATHER THAN NEEDING TO BE ASKED TO HELP WITH THE GROCERIES OR BUILDING RESENTMENT THAT YOUR PARTNER ISN'T GIVING YOU ENOUGH ATTENTION, TAKE SMALL STEPS EVERYDAY