Mental health awareness: All about relationships and regulating emotions

Q1 I am 21 years old and doing my LLB; I have a peculiar problem. I can't forget and forgive the people who hurt me. I maintain a bitter feeling towards that person and keep hurting myself by cutting my hands or purposely starving. I know I shouldn't do that, but I feel relieved after self-harm. Do I need help?

- Bimal, Karimnagar

A) Dear Bimal, you have issues with social relationships and regulating emotions. It would be best if you had a detailed psychological evaluation. Do see a psychiatrist/ clinical psychologist for the needful.

Q2) I am middle-aged married woman having a normal life; since a year, I have been noticing that I am feeling tensed in almost all situations. There is no threat or any reason, but I feel hot fish in my body and dizziness. I got so scared after some time; I got better. I have seen many doctors, but they say there is no physical problem; you have stress. Please suggest some remedy to get rid of it.

- Bhavya, Vizag

A) Dear Bhavya your presentation indicates anxiety symptoms. Do see a clinical psychologist. CBT can help you.

Q3) I am 40-year-old realtor having a happy marriage. These days I feel disinterested in anything, hopeless and tired most of the time and have no energy. Mine was a love marriage; my wife complains that I am not the same kind of person anymore. My marital life is also affected. Do I need to take medicines?

-Rajesh, Nellore

A) Dear Rajesh, I understand your mental state and your concerns about marriage. It would be better to see a psychiatrist or clinical psychologist to rule out the possibility of a depressive episode. If required, you might have to take medication from a psychiatrist.

Q4) I have been working in a private school for a very long time as a teacher, but my pay is significantly less; recently I have fallen in love with one of my colleagues; she is a married woman. She, too, reciprocates her feelings. Even she is ready to divorce her husband and live with me. I feel puzzled and guilty about not having a stable job and this illicit relationship. What should I do? I don't want her to lose her reputation.

-Gangadhar, Guntur

A) Dear Gangadhar, from your concerns, I understand that you are in conflict and anxious about the consequences. You need to take relationship counselling to have insight and resolve your relationship issues.

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